friday quote.

“The meaning of life in the United States is the pursuit of pleasure and personal freedom,

that suffering is so traumatic for Americans.”

– Dr. Paul Brand


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why choose God.

I know.

There are multitudes of belief systems out there.

Do they work for people? I don’t know.

I do know the Christian faith has worked for me.

It’s natural for me to choose God because I am about bottom lines. Give me the starting point so I can understand. Don’t skip steps and go to #3 or #4.

Yet, everyone of us have a longing in our hearts to know the Creator. He designed us that way.

And everyone of us have a different way of attaining that.

I do believe what Jesus said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No man comes to the father except through Me.”

I am rock solid in this belief.

And when you are suffering through tragedy, pain, or heartache, you want sure footing.

You need sure footing.

That said, people without God to turn to, what do they turn to?

Lots of things.

One thing is they turn to the “experts”.

But even the experts don’t always agree. That can cause someone who is already overwhelmed to become even more overwhelmed and want to give up.

Listen. I’ve done it. I have always thought most people knew better than me. It’s my nature.

Thankfully, I’ve grown since then. Yet, I remember being in a place where I sought answers and expected solutions from trusted people. There are so many differing opinions – even from the experts – psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists – and all of the others with letters after their name.

I’m not discrediting them. But if you find yourself on this quest to get help, get comfort, get understanding, get relief – you might find yourself going around in circles.

Some of us get lucky and find the perfect counselor or support group.

Some of us don’t.

When it is all said and done, God is always there. And he left his words to guide, direct, strengthen, and comfort us.

Words of truth.

Truth that has the ability to cut through it all, and yes, set you free.

Free from confusion, frustration, bitterness, sorrow – all of it.

You know in your heart there is a longing for God.

Why choose God? He is always there.

Get a Bible. Open it up. And read.

God will do the rest.



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While driving today, once again I found myself marveling at the splashes of autumn color.

It never gets old, does it?

Then I thought about what is coming : winter.

That can mean lots of snow, negative temperatures, and a bitter cold wind.

It means long, dark days that stretch into early March.

But set before, is this spectacular show that God paints across the landscape. I thought about how God does those kinds of things – like giving autumn before a pretty but often brutal winter and then the hope of spring.

The father heart of God toward humanity: He is with us.

It’s understandable how anyone would want to run from him, shake a fist at him, or worse yet, deny his existence. And still, God loves. Because if anyone understands pain, it’s God.

Yet, his world his filled with beauty in the midst of it. He made it that way purposely. And everything has perfect timing.

We can focus on the pain.

Or we can focus on the beauty.

And you can only focus on the beauty if you know the rest of the story.




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11 years.



Christopher R. Moulton 

Leader, loyal, committed, compassionate, sincere.


There is a place deep in God’s heart that understands.

When others speak what they know not of, God speaks louder and comforts my broken heart.



I’ve always been drawn to the obscure.

Like the gal who works at Walmart, embarrassed by the eczema that covers every inch of her not covered by her blue uniform top with the sunny yellow symbol.

This day she was putting mums out on a table outside. I smiled and said hi. Not the kind of rote hi-how-are-you-nice-day greeting so many say.

But the I really care kind.

I’ve chatted briefly with her at the register, but not enough for her to necessarily recognize me.

She did, however, give me the Walmart greeting.

“Ohh I’m great now that the humidity is gone,” I said spreading out my arms looking into the sky.

“I’d rather have hot,” she replied. “Because when it cools off I know what’s coming (winter)”.

So we talked about the mums and then her face lit up as she told me I could find some huge multi color ones inside.

She let her guard down. It was a nice conversation and I thought how nice it would be to have her for a friend.

I wasn’t always like this.

I’ve always put other people first but I was very busy with my own responsibilities along with a dash of assuming rejection to bother with too much friendliness.

Life is different now and taking the time with a stranger feels very good.

There are so many people that are ignored, neglected, and disregarded.

And I don’t think, I know, this is who God sees, too.

I know because he talks about them all the time in the Bible.

God makes a point of resisting the arrogant, prideful and conceited who, for whatever reason, think they are better than others. The kind of people who assume too much and often give lip service but little action to back up their words.

If you are someone who fits the description of feeling like an outcast, just hang on to the truth of what God says.

Not what others have said.

Not what you think.

What God says.

It’s comforting.


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the truth shall set you free.

Since losing Christopher, there have been small markers along the way which have helped me to live with such deep sorrow and loss.

If you’re a mother, you know what I mean. A piece of my heart is missing. I know it. I feel it.

I know God sees it, too.

Eleven years later, he still whispers truths to me that open my eyes to greater understanding.

The truth shall set you free.

It doesn’t put the missing piece back in my heart, but it helps my mind.

There are things that do not occur to us. We just don’t know everything.

Here is an excerpt from a book I am reading, Walking With God Through Pain and Suffering by Timothy Keller. It was a truth God showed me some years ago and reading it only solidified it in my mind.

(I did not begin reading all kinds of books on grieving and suffering after Chris’ death. I took the position of letting God “lead” me. Reading would have been a kind of mission for me and it would have only complicated my already overwhelmed mind.)

” … … the meaning of life in our Western society is individual freedom. There is no higher good than the right and freedom to decide for yourself what you think is good. But if the meaning of life is individual freedom and happiness, then suffering is of no possible “use”. In this worldview, the only thing to do with suffering is to avoid it at all costs, or, if it unavoidable, manage and minimize the emotions of pain and discomfort as much as possible.” 

Isn’t it true? We try to manage or minimize the emotions of pain and discomfort as much as possible. Mostly because of other people who expect us to be who we were.

Heck, even we want to be who we were until we figure out we can’t do it.

And if we aren’t doing it to ourselves, others are doing it for us. Even the distance so many feel from friends and family is a form of managing or minimizing the discomfort.


In the Western world especially, but not exclusively, (because of the great strides of progress and readily available solutions throughout all the world), we fail miserably at understanding grief.

Because it takes time.

There are no quick fixes.

And that good ol’ American spirit just doesn’t jive with suffering.

God wired us to handle suffering.

And he promised to walk through it with us.

Let truth set you free.






waiting patiently.

It’s normal for us to ask where God is when we are grieving.

We question if he even exists.

We question all the things we’re told: how much he loves us, how he is with us, how he cares.

It doesn’t feel like it, does it?

It isn’t easy to not have all the answers. Especially if you live in a wealthy, productive, and successful part of the world.

We are conditioned for impatience.

Death is one thing we cannot control. We have to accept it. But we are wired to have hope and faith – to believe beyond death.

The Bible says this: He [God] has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

Thing is, it’s normal to close off that part of our heart when we come face to face with tragedy. It’s because we are protecting ourselves.

In time, we will open up, little by little, as God whispers truths of comfort into our broken hearts.

In other words, there is no quick fix. It takes time. God is there, helping us through the time it takes.

Throughout the Bible, God tells us we need patience.

But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.

There is nothing to do but believe.

There is nothing to do but wait.

If we keep wrestling, we’ll become exhausted.

Body, soul, and spirit exhausted.

God will help you be patient.


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