Please allow me to step into your pain and introduce you to Ann Voskamp.
If you’re tired of the platitudes, her words are for you.
She says things like:
Because there is nothing we need to know more than how to live with our broken heart.
Feeling like no one understands us may be what overwhelms us the most.
Is the worst human emotion feeling alone?
This fall, look for her new book.
If you cannot read it now, it’s okay.
But one day, when you’re ready, please read.
I walk almost everyday. Usually 2-3 miles in the morning and occasionally some in the evening.
The route is typically the same. But every time, I see something new.
Sometimes, it is a new wildflower that bloomed. Sometimes, it’s just the way the sun is shining. Clinging dew drops sparkle in morning sun. Flowers softly glow in the afternoon.
Life is like that.
How does the light shine on your life? Do you even notice?
Because even on cloudy days, the familiar can take on a subtle, yet beautiful appearance. Colors feel more meaningful against the gray.
Let the simple things quiet the complicated things that crowd into your thoughts.
Simple things make you peaceful.
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But we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers, about those who have died, so that you may not grieve like other people who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so through Jesus, God will bring those who have died with him.
1 Thessalonians 4:13,14
This scripture is often read at memorial services. It is a wonderful promise for those who have lost a loved one. It transcends our limited understanding of time and helps us to remember there is more to come. Hope keeps us going.
But sometimes, people think that if you’re a Christian, you will not grieve at all, or at the very least, minimally. A time table is established and if you’re not where they think you should be in the grieving process, eyebrows are raised.
No one would expect a person with a broken leg to walk, but some expect a broken heart to beat the same.
I was strong in my faith before my son died and I continued strong in my faith. The above scripture is real to me. But I am not the same person I was. I feel the limitations. They are subtle, but I know they’re there. It doesn’t affect my belief in God’s promise.
I’m human and I am limited. And I’m okay with that.
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Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.
1 Peter 5:7
What does it mean to know God? Can one know God?
For centuries, religion has made God seem distant and mysterious. But when you read the Bible, you find that God tells us he is very near to us. That’s good news, especially for people who are hurting.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34
If you have only known God to be unreachable, detached, distant, or mysterious, today is your day to know He is not any of those things. You can know all about Him!
Our bodies have an amazing ability to heal. Sometimes it needs help with medication, but what a marvelous process to watch how new skin replaces a cut finger, or how a broken bone mends and become usable again.
Broken hearts are real and not always seen by others. That’s what makes it more difficult.
Their insults have broken my heart and I am so sick. I looked for sympathy, but there was none, and for comforters, but I found none. Psalm 69:20
God has not given our physical bodies a way to heal and not our emotions. Talk to God about what hurts. He will not only comfort you, but he will heal your broken heart in time.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3