You had dreams. But something happened to ruin things. And now you are discouraged.

Sometimes, it’s the choices of other people who ruin those dreams.  We can’t control those choices. Some people just aren’t willing to think about others first. You may have tried to communicate your feelings to no avail.

It hurts.

Meanwhile, you have choices, too. You can choose to let those broken dreams make life bitter or you can choose to enjoy life. It’s up to you. Because there’s plenty in life to enjoy if you’re looking. And one thing I’ve learned about God is this: he always has another path for us when there’s a dead end on the one we were on.

And those dreams?  You might be able to tuck them away and not give up on them just yet. The last chapter of your life has yet to be written.



You don’t always have to be the bigger person.

I know, I know. In many of today’s Christian circles, you are encouraged to press in, march on, grab hold … be victorious; an over-comer!

… when people should be reaching out to you.

We can measure physical pain. We understand the process of healing. You can’t rush it. And everyone is different.  Anyone who would tell someone with a broken hip to walk is stupid. Why do we tell people with a broken heart to walk? When a piece of their heart is missing?

It takes time for a broken heart and tired mind to heal. The worst thing someone can do is make a hurting person feel worse with our words and actions (or lack thereof).

I don’t believe that is God’s heart.

At all.

So if this is you, be released from people’s thoughtlessness. And let God be your comfort. He is the bigger person.

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You’re not supposed to get hurt in church.

It’s supposed to be a place of acceptance and love. Yet far too often, pain comes from Christians.

Some of us are just complainers. But some of us are sincerely victims of unkind people.

There are no perfect Christians and there are no perfect churches. But I think we could do a lot better.

The message of the Gospel is love. All throughout the New Testament we see God relating to us with love and defining how we should relate to Him and each other with that same love – laying down your life, treating others the way you want to be treated, submitting, giving, serving, caring … sacrificial, unconditional love.

If you’ve been hurt, know that God sees it all.

 Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you. -The Bible

Don’t give up on people or church. You be the love to others that you did not receive. And only when you really know God can you accomplish this.



We can be hurting so badly, we don’t see clearly.

Yet, God has ways to bring comfort. Our pain makes us sensitive to the ache in our heart, but it also makes us aware of the smallest of pleasures.

The way the morning sun filters through the window curtains, laying patterns on the bed.

The way the rain rhythmically patters on the roof, lulling us to sleep.

The way a butterfly dances to each flower, with certainty of provision.

These are not small things. They are meant to strike a chord deep within our souls and bring a smile.

This is God telling us He is with us. Don’t miss the moments.

They are all around you …




If you don’t look up you will miss the gift God had for you today.

He knows all about the pain.

But He also knows what makes us smile.

But you have to look.




Lift your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one, and calls them each by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing. -The Bible

One look into the night sky and a whole lot can be straightened out in our thinking.




When you look down, you can’t see where you’re going. The view is narrowed to where you place each step.

It’s interesting how often our emotions line up with our bodies. We all know the one who is looking down and walking quickly is someone on a mission. The one hunched over, taking slow steps is feeling weighted down with problems or defeat.

Look up.

Just look up! It can change your whole perspective.

to be continued …



God painted the world with delicate beauty.

With purposeful intent, God knew we would respond to its beauty.

Some things are obvious.

Some things are not.

Look at all God made. He created it for us!  Do you think you are less important than the great thought God had when creating the earth? You are of much more value to Him.



One form of pain is rejection.

It says:

not wanted.

not liked.

not valued.

God says something very different.

But if God loved me  he wouldn’t …

The rain falls on all of us just the same. God loves you enough to help you through the rejection.

After all, Jesus was rejected. He knows.






To find peace in your pain, there has to be something or someone bigger than your situation.

Optimism and positive thinking are a good start, but it doesn’t take away the lump in your throat. Addictions eases the pain momentarily – only to find it on our plate the next morning.

God, the creator of the universe, is well able to handle anything that comes along. He hears us when we call out to Him. In our minds, we want the painful situation to go away. Sometimes it does. Sometimes it doesn’t.

Nevertheless, God says He will never leave us or forget about us. That means He will through the pain with us.

Go ahead. Ask Him.