“But then I remember this means he is not so far away, and we’re not so far from him, and it makes me smile”.
Mary Katharine Hamm lost her husband in 2015. She was pregnant with her second child.
She recently wrote this article I know will resonate with anyone who has lost a loved one.
After reading her story it occurred to me, no 2 personal experiences I have read about grieving are the same.
We who are grieving over a severe loss, walk through the Valley of the Shadow of Death, enveloped by the coldest, darkest place we’ve ever known. And yet, it seems each of us finds glimmers of light along the way. The smallest speck of light is the brightest because it is the darkest there, illuminating what we would not have seen otherwise.
He is not so far away …
This thought brings a new feeling of comfort.
Heaven may be closer than we think.
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I haven’t lost anyone close to me who gave their life for our country.
But I know many of you have.
What a noble act for your loved one to protect all of us.
When I am feeling annoyed over something small – even sorrowful over something big – I think of the 15 and 16 year old young men who fought in the Civil War and beyond.
They never got to experience life.
These are difficult things to grasp, no matter what your story is.
Christians have hope; a certainty and assurance of knowing there is life beyond here on earth – where God says he will wipe away every tear and there will be no more sorrow or death.
My prayer is comfort and peace for you today as you remember the loss of your loved one for our nation.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
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Has pain caused you to abandon your faith in God?
Because when people say prayer changes things … you wonder why it didn’t change something for you.
It’s something we have to talk about. Because for every person who is rejoicing over answered prayer, there is someone who feels abandoned by God – particularly when it comes to losing someone you love.
This doesn’t mean we don’t pray.
It means we accept.
God is over all things. He doesn’t love you less because your loved one died.
He does love you enough to give you the comfort he promises us.
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We can be hurting so badly, we don’t see clearly.
Yet, God has ways to bring comfort. Our pain makes us sensitive to the ache in our heart, but it also makes us aware of small pleasures.
The way the morning sun filters through the window curtains, laying patterns on the bed.
The rhythm of rain lulling us to sleep.
The way a butterfly lands on a flower, certain of provision.
These are not small things. They are meant to strike a chord deep within our souls and bring a smile.
This is God telling us He is with us.
Don’t miss the moments. They are all around you!
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This morning, I read to my 11 yr. old about the tundra.
Most of the tundra is located north of the Arctic Circle – in the Frigid Zone – the coldest regions of the earth.
As winter approaches, the nights grow longer and colder as snow and ice cover the earth. The ground freezes solid.
Desolate. Barren. Empty.
Pain is like that.
Who knew this far removed region of the earth would dance with color? About 400 wildflower species announces to the world that desolation is only temporary.
The existence of pain does not mean God isn’t real. We accept winter and spring. One does not negate the other.
The arrival of spring brings comfort and tells us that God is with us.
Read nature! It helps explain life.
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