Lots of people have trouble with God.
That’s because he is called Heavenly Father. Immediately, our experiences with our earthly father (or lack of) comes into play.
Whether your experience has been good or bad, can we agree that a good father will pick up his crying child and comfort him or her? Won’t he be protective? Available to listen to you? Play with you?
You may not have had that. But that doesn’t change who God is.
But then, the questions come.
If God is so good, if he cares, then why did he let me have a horrible father? Or no father?
We all have struggles in this world. But you have a choice to believe … or not believe.
Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.
– The Bible
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Yes, you can be an adult and have struggles because of your relationship with a father, mother, or both.
You may have been abandoned.
You may not have been wanted.
You may have heard lots of words spoken against you.
You may have been hurt physically.
God has wired us to overcome difficulty. You just have to want it.
But first, we begin with how much God sees your pain.
Then we ask him to help us.
And he will. In ways you may not expect. But he will.
There are times when the wind blows and causes damage.
And there are times when it’s a welcoming breeze.
Life has good and it has bad.
God is over it all.
Don’t allow what was … determine what you will be.
You have a father in Heaven who knows what you need when you
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Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD cares for me.
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God is so great in his love, He continually places sure footing before our steps – even when we have messed up. God doesn’t sit back like some of us do, just waiting for the ax to fall on someone. His mercy is so great and His compassion is so deep that He weeps over us.
As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him.
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Sometimes we think the pain is our fault.
Sometimes people tell us it’s our fault.
Then we have more pain.
Let me tell you what God says.
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. Psalm 56:8
God calls Himself the Heavenly Father.
That may bring more pain if you didn’t have a father, your father was cruel, or your father was absent. Nevertheless, God is a good father.
There is pain in life. It’s just the way it is. God never promised there wouldn’t be pain. He promised that He would be with us in the pain.
God knows every awkward moment, embarrassment, and frustration.
When you were abandoned, rejected, mocked, and hated.
And when you were afraid, sick, neglected, and abused.
Each time your heart was broken … he counted your tears.
That, is a good Father.
If you are a parent, you know how difficult it is when your child is sick. A sudden fever in the middle of the night or a broken arm from a fall – we want to take the pain away. We do all we can to comfort and help our child get well.
God is a parent, too. He is the Heavenly Father. He is not distant from you. The Bible tells us God knows how many hairs are on your head. That tells me He is fully aware of you in a very personal way. When you are in pain, He also wants to bring comfort and help you get well.
A child learns to trust his parent’s care. God wants us to trust His care.
How does God comfort? First of all, it’s incredible to me what people can endure. Some call it the resilience of the human spirit. It’s there because God put it there. Secondly, if we want God’s involvement, we will find many comforting promises that will help us through our pain.
God has made us to work well within His design. That said, knowing those comforting promises help us with pain. It works. Just like a child trusts that an earthly parent will bring them a warm blanket, a glass of juice, a dosage of medicine, we can trust that our Heavenly Father promises never to leave us or forget us.
It doesn’t always feel like that. I know. But only when we see beyond ourselves and reach for something bigger than our pain, will we begin feeling differently.
When no one else understands, God does. When no one else cares, God does.