Have you been hurt by Christians?
Have you decided not to have anything to do with God because of this?
Yes, people hurt people and it’s wrong.
But when I remembered how I have hurt people, too, it has helped me to put it into perspective.
God doesn’t hurt us like people hurt us.
Don’t avoid church because you might get hurt.
We have to take the bad with the good.
And there is more good than bad in church.
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Yes, you can be an adult and have struggles because of your relationship with a father, mother, or both.
You may have been abandoned.
You may not have been wanted.
You may have heard lots of words spoken against you.
You may have been hurt physically.
God has wired us to overcome difficulty. You just have to want it.
But first, we begin with how much God sees your pain.
Then we ask him to help us.
And he will. In ways you may not expect. But he will.
There are times when the wind blows and causes damage.
And there are times when it’s a welcoming breeze.
Life has good and it has bad.
God is over it all.
Don’t allow what was … determine what you will be.
You have a father in Heaven who knows what you need when you
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You may have had an abortion.
Deep inside, you may wonder if it was right or wrong.
You may feel the emotional pain from terminating your pregnancy, even if you were okay with it at the time.
If you are struggling with having an abortion, I have something to tell you. God forgives. You may not think you did anything wrong to need forgiveness. But the fact you are feeling so miserable, or the abortion still haunts you after several years, you may be dealing with guilt.
We are limited in our human understanding – as amazing as we are! We are wired to be hurt by our actions. The 10 commandments are not to hurt us – but to help us. It’s like God telling us to avoid these things because you are fragile and it will end up hurting you.
But the good part is God is merciful. The Bible tells us so much about how God is compassionate toward us.
God is not punishing you. God loves you. And He wants more than you know to not feel the guilt. He forgives when we go to Him. And only He, the one who made you, is able to erase the past.
You don’t always have to be the bigger person.
I know, I know. In many of today’s Christian circles, you are encouraged to press in, march on, grab hold … be victorious; an over-comer!
… when people should be reaching out to you.
We can measure physical pain. We understand the process of healing. You can’t rush it. And everyone is different. Anyone who would tell someone with a broken hip to walk is stupid. Why do we tell people with a broken heart to walk? When a piece of their heart is missing?
It takes time for a broken heart and tired mind to heal. The worst thing someone can do is make a hurting person feel worse with our words and actions (or lack thereof).
I don’t believe that is God’s heart.
So if this is you, be released from people’s thoughtlessness. And let God be your comfort. He is the bigger person.
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My friend was suffering. She was facing multiple, serious situations all happening within a couple of days. She was going down and she knew it.
There are times when we just want to close our eyes and not wake up. The pain is too much.
“Tell me something,” she said. I knew the desperation she was feeling. I knew she did not have an ounce of strength. She had enough.
Without blinking an eye, and surprised at what came out of my mouth, I said: “All I can tell you is that the sun rises every morning.”
It was all she needed.
So much we cannot predict.
Some things we can.
And as long as we can, there is hope.