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miracles.

You’ve read them.

Heartwarming stories of miracles. Being at the right place at the right time. Rescued.

But then you didn’t get a miracle, did you?

I didn’t get one, either.

So we have to do something with that. We have to have a place to file “no miracle” in our minds.

The people who get a miracle like to talk about it. And so they should! But then they believe for you, too. But you don’t understand. Not everyone gets a miracle.

I have resolved to accept it. If I didn’t, I would get bitter.

I didn’t want a heart that would soon show on my face and in my words that would reflect the taste you get when you chew up an aspirin.

Over the years, I have determined the goodness of God as well as the bad in this world. I have cultivated a relationship of trusting him since we were made to trust in something or someone so why not him?

I still cry and hurt and miss the miracle I did not get.

But I love God with all my heart, soul, and strength enough to believe and be comforted with a miracle we can all have – grace and peace for now, heaven forever with God.

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jealousy.

j 2When things are going wrong in our life, we can be jealous when we see the success, happiness, and prosperity of others.

It’s normal.

But you have to change your thinking or else you will be miserable for a long time. Not only that, but if you have the tendency to be jealous, it can make a pattern in your thinking that will crop up the rest of your life. You will become hateful and bitter.

It’s time to nip this one in the bud. We combat it with truth.

Truth: bad things happen to all of us. They really do. You only see the surface of what success, happiness, and prosperity and looks like. When those individuals lay on their beds at night, who knows what struggles they have?

How to change your thinking:

1) Choose to be happy for them. You would want others to be happy for you, right? Begin to think  and even voice your gladness for those people in your life.

2) Be thankful. We’ve all heard it but it really works. Think…even voice…what you are thankful for. It will soon make you content, no matter what your situation is. I know. Some situations are really hard. Like losing a child. Why me? But when you are thankful, the sting of the loss lessens.

3) Accept the pain in your life. Take your time with this one. It’s okay. But if there are changes you can make, do it!

Practice this and you will begin to change how you think.

Don’t let jealousy paralyze you from believing the best for your life!

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mrMark: / Foter / CC BY

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bitterness.

Sometimes our pain can make us bitter.

Our hearts become infected because of wounds inflicted (or perceived to be inflicted) by others.

While it is understandable, it must be prevented because it’s only going to hurt you. It is a strong, negative emotion.

How do you know you’re bitter?

  • Seeing or even just hearing the person’s name who has offended you makes you seethe inside. Ever feel it? I have.
  • You replay the tape. Over and over and over.
  • If you find out something good has happened to that person, it aggravates you.

Bitterness eats away at you.

Next time, “how to stop being bitter”.

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seeing is believing.

We believe what we see.

But what we see is not always true.

Sometimes, we have to take off the glasses.

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Shadowy forms come into focus. Depth perception increases. And was the sky always this blue?

Mindsets become our lens. We aren’t always right.

Are there perceptions .. thoughts .. opinions .. which you are clinging to?

Some people are easily frustrated or discouraged. Some worry or complain. Others are bitter and unforgiving.

Try taking off your glasses and tell me what you see.

Now try putting someone else’s glasses on.

There’s more to your life than meets the eye.

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lenses.

We all look at life through a particular set of  lenses.

If we’re willing, sometimes we have to take off the glasses.

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And we will see things differently.

Shadowy forms come into focus. Depth perception increases. And was the sky always this blue?

Mindsets become our lens. We aren’t always right.

Are there perceptions .. thoughts .. opinions .. which you are clinging to?

Some people are easily frustrated or discouraged. Some worry or complain. Others are bitter and unforgiving.

Try taking off your glasses and tell me what you see.

Now try putting someone else’s glasses on.

There’s more to your life than meets the eye.

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beauty.

The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.

-Jim Rohnfence

Ever see a flower growing in an unexpected place? An uneven sidewalk or a cold stone wall is lifeless until the beauty of a flower makes it home.

Even a rusty fence can be home for a delicate vine.

We all have barren places in our lives. Don’t let that emptiness you feel make you hopeless. There is ugliness in life but there is also beauty. They dwell together.

It’s far too easy to become hardened and bitter, and before you know it, you’ve  built a wall of protection around yourself.

Don’t keep the beauty from growing in your life! Let it wrap around the ugliness and diminish its power of negativity, sadness, and hopelessness.

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forgive.

It is not impossible to forgive someone.

The only way we can is because God has wired us for it.

After recognizing this, the next step is to realize that you do things wrong, too. When we understand and accept this fact we are more willing to forgive.

See, the problem is we don’t think we’re that bad. Or, we would never do what so-and-so did.

If we would see we’re all broken – all on an equal playing field – this paradigm would make us think differently. The Bible states to break one commandment is to break them all.  In God’s world, sin is sin.

It’s alright to be hurt. If you want to forgive, God will help you. Otherwise you will become bitter. And that will hurt even worse.

dreams.

You had dreams. But something happened to ruin things. And now you are discouraged.

Sometimes, it’s the choices of other people who ruin those dreams.  We can’t control those choices. Some people just aren’t willing to think about others first. You may have tried to communicate your feelings to no avail.

It hurts.

Meanwhile, you have choices, too. You can choose to let those broken dreams make life bitter or you can choose to enjoy life. It’s up to you. Because there’s plenty in life to enjoy if you’re looking. And one thing I’ve learned about God is this: he always has another path for us when there’s a dead end on the one we were on.

And those dreams?  You might be able to tuck them away and not give up on them just yet. The last chapter of your life has yet to be written.

bitterness.

Bitterness is anger that has lodged somewhere inside and eats away at your joy of living.

If you are not careful, pain can make you bitter.

See, when you are hurting, you want someone to take the pain away. There’s only one who can take it away: God. But you have to trust Him even when it hurts. The way you do that is you recognize that He made the world and He made you.

There are many things we don’t understand and we often ask – why? You may not get an answer and so you have to do something with the “why”. If you’re intent on pursuing your question, it can be never ending; even tormenting, and leading to anger. But if you settle it in your heart that not all “whys” can be answered, and trust God knows, you won’t get bitter.

Bitterness eats away at you and can affect your health. When we let go of bitterness, Mayo Clinic reports the benefits:

  • Healthier relationships
  • Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse

Whatever it is, let it go so you can be free.