“While wandering a deserted beach at dawn … I saw a man in the distance bending and throwing as he walked the endless stretch toward me. As he came near, I could see that he was throwing starfish, abandoned on the sand by the tide, back into the sea.
When he was close enough I asked him why he was working so hard at this strange task. He said that the sun would dry the starfish and they would die. I said to him that I thought he was foolish. there were thousands of starfish on miles and miles of beach. One man alone could never make a difference. He smiled as he picked up the next starfish.
Hurling it far into the sea he said, “It makes a difference for this one.” – Loren Eiseley
Make a difference for someone, even if you are the one who is hurting.
Nothing will completely remove the pain we feel through the losses and struggles in our life.
But there is a way to live through it.
This morning, I was talking to my 14 year old about contentment since he asked about it concerning his literature assignment.
I said, imagine if you are swimming across a lake and you begin to struggle. You are getting tired and eventually are gasping for air. Then you feel an arm reach around you, helping to bring you safely to shore.
Would you push away this help?
Would you fight it and say you can do it alone?
Would you blame your savior for your inability to swim the lake?
Would you even be angry at the lake?
We live in a world of very wonderful moments, full of beauty and enjoyment. But it is intermingled with pain and struggles. God doesn’t hide this from us. He clearly tells us in the scripture we will have pain and suffering, but says He is with us always.
God is that hand reaching down to us. Do you fight against Him?
As you learn to trust Him, you learn to be content no matter what your circumstances are, because you have come to know He is with you.
Some people stay angry with their struggles and even turn their anger toward God, saying he should have prevented this or that.
We don’t have all the answers. That is what faith is. It is believing what God says even when we don’t feel like it. Soon we find ourselves becoming stronger and content because we also learn that life is short compared to eternity, where God is waiting for us, ready to wipe away all our tears (and perhaps explain some things!)
It is clear our world is imperfect. We see sickness, loss, physical and mental pain, and death.
It’s not fair.
Yet, it is what it is and how we deal with it will make us either suffer in our own bitterness or we find contentment despite our suffering.
Contentment is like a steady, burning candle. There are no extremes of excessive light, searching your mind for every negative emotion, nor shadowy dimness, pulling you into an abyss of darkness and despair.
Contentment is light that provides you with what you need for today.
I want to share this wonderful piece of jewelry that I bought for myself from Efy Tal Jewelry
I wanted Christopher’s initial on a simple chain. There are many out there, but this one is perfect.
I asked for a 20″ chain if possible and Efy did it for me with a note “just for you”. Little did she know how much it meant to me so I sent her a note explaining my son had died and I wanted his initial to be close to my heart.
What I also loved about this necklace was the birthstone included – his is November – topaz.
And the lovely little pearl near the clasp keeps the charm from falling off.
I want to suggest this gift for every mother who has lost a child and recommend EfyTal Jewelry. You can find her and a video of this necklace on Facebook, too.