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for you.

There are people who do not go to church.

Some have been hurt.

Some see hypocrisy.

Some don’t believe in God.

So many reasons.

So many experiences.

And God cares about them all.

You may have heard “there is no perfect church”. This is true. But it is not an excuse.

It is often said in situations of conflict so those who have been hurt will realize things happen and the Bible encourages us to forgive, turn the other cheek, pursue peace, guard against division, and basically, let it go.

I agree and I have personally found peace in every situation, whether resolved or not.

Yet, I believe we should be very careful to examine our motives if we are in a conflict and we know we have hurt people with our words or actions. If the burden is quickly placed on the recipient of that hurt to just move on, it may be cause to take a step back.

There are scriptures telling us to be humble, bear one another’s burdens, and serve one another … all wrapped up in fervent love.

This love we should have is defined by the love God showed to the world through placing himself between us and the deadly consequences of sin separating us from God forever.

This is huge. And if we find ourselves getting off track, not always loving the way God wants us to, I think we are in big trouble.

And so, the Church, the people, should be representatives of this love which is immersed in gentleness and humility.

We do this because we love God and aren’t we the light to the world?

It’s not about our ability to move mountains, prophecy, and understand all mysteries.

It’s not about giving everything to the poor or dying a martyr.

All things that would get the world’s attention.

It is only about love. Are we humbling ourselves and allowing God to clean up our oh-so-easily-straying-heart?

Jesus humbled himself when he loved the world through his death.

If we are not humble, do we really love?

And are we growing and maturing into that perfect Church?

It’s interesting how much the world will expect from the Church. That’s because there is something unspoken, yet powerful that speaks to the world.

We must get it right.

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hurt in church.

Some people have been hurt in church. It’s the last place you’d expect it.

Some people have remarked with a quip: “There’s no perfect church!”

Well, it’s not funny.

It is true that people are not perfect.

It is not true that people are not perfect

enough to say “I’m sorry”.

If you’ve been hurt in a church, you may have turned away from God.

Don’t. You will feel worse.

It’s not God’s fault.

 

 

And you’re right.

The people in a church should have

a caring

a compassion

and a love not seen anywhere else.

 You be different.

Give to others out of your pain. It’s like giving yourself what you were not given.

And watch what happens.

~~~

repost Nov. 2012

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seanmcgrath / Foter / CC BY

Pink Sherbet Photography / Foter / CC BY

hurt in church.

Have you been hurt in church?

It’s not uncommon. Christians are not perfect and there is no perfect church. But somehow, we equate a higher standard with churches.

Understandable.

Actually, I think God holds a higher standard for Christians and churches, too.

Jesus said, From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.

This is a truth I think we call all understand.

I’ve been hurt by Christians. And I know I’ve hurt Christians. But none of this is God’s fault. Yet, many give up on God and church altogether.

The only one you’re hurting is you.

Let me say this: your pain if valid. Don’t ever think it’s not alright to hurt. Don’t ever let anyone tell you, “you’re a victor not a victim!”

God cares about our pain. Otherwise, the Bible would not be so full of his care, compassion, and concern for us.

Face the facts. Acknowledge your own propensity to hurt people, too.

Take a deep breath.

Forgive.

Trust God.

Move on.

You’d be surprised how good you’ll feel.

 

sacrifice.

Some people have been hurt in church. It’s the last place you’d expect it.

Some people have remarked with a quip: “There’s no perfect church!”

Well, it’s not funny.

 

 

 

It is true that people are not perfect.

It is not true that people are not perfect

enough to say “I’m sorry”.

 

 

 

If you’ve been hurt in a church, you may have turned away from God.

Don’t. You will feel worse.

It’s not God’s fault.

 

 

And you’re right.

The people in a church should have

a caring

a compassion

and a love

not seen anywhere else.

 

You be different.

Give to others out of your pain. It’s like giving yourself what you were not given.

And watch what happens.

~~~

Photo courtesy:

seanmcgrath / Foter / CC BY

Pink Sherbet Photography / Foter / CC BY

how?

You’re not supposed to get hurt in church.

It’s supposed to be a place of acceptance and love. Yet far too often, pain comes from Christians.

Some of us are just complainers. But some of us are sincerely victims of unkind people.

There are no perfect Christians and there are no perfect churches. But I think we could do a lot better.

The message of the Gospel is love. All throughout the New Testament we see God relating to us with love and defining how we should relate to Him and each other with that same love – laying down your life, treating others the way you want to be treated, submitting, giving, serving, caring … sacrificial, unconditional love.

If you’ve been hurt, know that God sees it all.

 Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you. -The Bible

Don’t give up on people or church. You be the love to others that you did not receive. And only when you really know God can you accomplish this.