sticks and stones.

sticks and stones.

We’ve all done it.

We’ve all had it done to us.

Speaking words that hurt.

We’re flawed human  beings who don’t always get it right.

It doesn’t make it okay. It doesn’t make it hurt less.

But it does help us to navigate through the pain.

What are those words that haunt you?

Words spoken to you as a child.

Words spoken in anger.

Words spoken of betrayal.

Even words not spoken .. hurt.

Now what?

Choose to love based on your own potential to falter.

Choose to love so you can be free.


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God created us with emotions.

Even God has emotions. Keep in mind, however, his emotions are not defined in human terms. Because we cannot fully comprehend him, we are prone to think of him humanly. For example, his anger is sourced in a divine response to evil.

In the article, God Without Mood Swings, Phillip R. Johnson states:

God is [not] literally subject to fits and temper tantrums. His wrath against sin is surely something more than just a bad mood. 

The Bible shows us some of God’s emotions:








God relates to human emotions. In turn, we relate to him.

Don’t we turn to people who understand us?

Emotions can be wonderful. They make us feel alive! But, we cannot be led by our emotions. We need something solid to anchor our lives to. The wind carries a sailboat but it has to be steered and anchored to its destination.

Truth is our anchor.

Just like we live with physical laws (e.g., gravity), truth is an unseen law that has a way of settling things. The truth is often difficult (thus, “the truth hurts”), but if we embrace it for what it is, despite how we feel, our emotions will line up.

If you have found yourself in a muddled mess of emotions, truth will help settle you. The truth can be that there are no immediate solutions or answers to your situation and you have to endure it.

If you know God has emotions, you know he understands your emotions.

And because he understands your emotions, he will give you comfort, strength, and guidance.

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Bitterness is anger that has lodged somewhere inside and eats away at your joy of living.

If you are not careful, pain can make you bitter.

See, when you are hurting, you want someone to take the pain away. There’s only one who can take it away: God. But you have to trust Him even when it hurts. The way you do that is you recognize that He made the world and He made you.

There are many things we don’t understand and we often ask – why? You may not get an answer and so you have to do something with the “why”. If you’re intent on pursuing your question, it can be never ending; even tormenting, and leading to anger. But if you settle it in your heart that not all “whys” can be answered, and trust God knows, you won’t get bitter.

Bitterness eats away at you and can affect your health. When we let go of bitterness, Mayo Clinic reports the benefits:

  • Healthier relationships
  • Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse

Whatever it is, let it go so you can be free.