start living.

start living.

The words are similar.

The words are familiar.

Mothers who have lost a child, wondering at the silence from the people around them.

One time, a friend told me, “Well, people probably don’t know what to say.”

News flash: mothers (and fathers) who have lost a child are not waiting for attention. The reason I think people don’t know what to say is because we live in a time of positive thinking and never-give-up and they know it can’t possibly apply.

So, the silence.

Not just for you, but for them. It’s scary to be jarred into reality.

Our world, and in many Christian circles, people do not readily accept tragedies or suffering as a part of life. This sets people up for disillusionment. When I think of other times and places, and the loss, pain, and suffering people endured, it cautions me to not believe in something that is not true.

Bad things happen. It is a part of life.

The hope we have is one day, God will wipe away every tear and there will be no more sorrow or death. We can’t live our lives being against God because of our situations. You can’t change it. It is what it is.

Start living. Would your child want anything less?


half-empty or half-full?

half-empty or half-full?

Some of us trudge through life with our half-empty glasses and believe we’re going to lose what we have.

Some of us just maneuver around the obstacles trying to keep our half-full glasses from spilling over.

The latter is more fun.



It’s not the kind of positive thinking that requires  I-think-I-can-I-think-I can.

It’s choosing to be optimistic and hopeful.

Remember. Tomorrow’s another day!


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To find peace in your pain, there has to be something or someone bigger than your situation.

Optimism and positive thinking are a good start, but it doesn’t take away the lump in your throat. Addictions eases the pain momentarily – only to find it on our plate the next morning.

God, the creator of the universe, is well able to handle anything that comes along. He hears us when we call out to Him. In our minds, we want the painful situation to go away. Sometimes it does. Sometimes it doesn’t.

Nevertheless, God says He will never leave us or forget about us. That means He will through the pain with us.

Go ahead. Ask Him.