I learned the truth at seventeen
That love was meant for beauty queens
And high school girls with clear skinned smiles
Who married young and then retired
The valentines I never knew
The Friday night charades of youth
Were spent on one more beautiful
At seventeen I learned the truth…
And those of us with ravaged faces
Lacking in the social graces
Desperately remained at home
Inventing lovers on the phone
Who called to say “come dance with me”
And murmured vague obscenities
It isn’t all it seems at seventeen…
Some of get it. Some do not.
Have you been rejected because you don’t measure up to the world’s definition of beauty?
He is right. It may not change a thing. But if somehow, you can feel acceptance…even for a moment.. let it encourage you.
It’s not you.
Photo Credit: Denis Collette…!!! / Foter / CC BY-NC-ND
At Seventeen – Janis Ian
Being ignored hurts.
Whether it is being passed over for a promotion or pay raise, unnoticed in a social setting, or rejected by family or classmates – it’s painful. Not only is it awkward, but you feel like there is something wrong with you.
But then there is that one kind person who notices and reaches out.
I remember my first grade teacher embarrassing me in front of the whole class (teachers have a lot of influence in those developmental years). I had always felt like a candle in the wind – never knowing who to cling to – like the song goes. But then came my fourth grade teacher who adored me. No one had ever treated me so wonderfully.
It changed my whole perception.
People can be cruel. Sometimes it’s unintentional. But if we were intentional in caring about others it would not happen. Unfortunately, we cannot prevent it. But what we can do is treat others the way we would like to be treated, despite what kind of treatment we’ve received.
From now on, you be that person that reaches out. It will make you feel so much better to give!