it’s not fair.

it’s not fair.

Recently, I substituted a class of 5th graders at a local public school. The teacher asked me to talk about the character trait “fairness” as part of the Positivity Project.

I asked if anyone had a personal story they would like to share about a time they thought they were being treated unfairly.

Almost every hand went up.

Every one of us would raise our hand, too.

Is there any one thing that is more hurtful? Genuinely being treated unfairly?

There are no pat answers for unfairness. But there are many scriptures offering real help to manage our feelings and understanding.

Unfortunately, it requires waiting in a very activity-driven world.

This doesn’t mean you should be used. There is a place for speaking up and addressing it.

But often, we find ourselves without a resolution. How do we live without becoming cynical, bitter, or miserable?

Unfairness in not relative. God cares about it. The arrogant or less compassionate often interpret for the rest of us but God has the final say.

He will judge the world with justice and rule the nations with fairness. Psalm 9:8

God is just: He will pay back trouble to those who trouble you. 2 Thessalonians 1:6

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7

We think God doesn’t notice when he didn’t stop it or doesn’t fix it.

God doesn’t think the way we do. But he doesn’t leave us without a solution.

Life on earth will end.

Eternity is forever.

Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD. Psalm 27:14

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It’s not fair.

No, it’s not.

We grapple with the struggles that come into our life, forgetting that heartache is universal. The unfairness part enters our mind when we compare ourselves to others. Why me?

Who is the question  being directed to? Interesting the commonality of asking it. In other words, you don’t have to believe in God to ask it. Nevertheless, it is asked. You don’t believe in God or you’re not sure there is a God, but it’s God who you are really directing the question to.

Someone must be blamed for the pain.

It must suffice: we all live in a world which has incredible beauty co-existing with incredible ugliness. The fact we are not consumed by its ugliness tells me there is a God who has created within us the ability to live with this dichotomy.

Mankind has proved himself to endure calamity – and often comes through it better off.  Scars, yes. Memories, yes. Tears, yes.

It’s not fair.

No, it’s not.

But in the end, God is fair.