Grief is work.
I had never thought about it like that, until I was hit with it.
Grief plunges you into an abyss. The last thing you want to do is work yourself out of that bottomless pit.
But grief is not that kind of work – trying to “get better” or to feel normal.
The work is letting yourself be taken down an unfamiliar path, and going with it when you don’t want to.
You will not feel your old self because the person you lost was part of your old self.
Put your shovel down and rest.