It’s normal for us to ask where God is when we are grieving.
We question if he even exists.
We question all the things we’re told: how much he loves us, how he is with us, how he cares.
It doesn’t feel like it, does it?
It isn’t easy to not have all the answers. Especially if you live in a wealthy, productive, and successful part of the world.
We are conditioned for impatience.
Death is one thing we cannot control. We have to accept it. But we are wired to have hope and faith – to believe beyond death.
The Bible says this: He [God] has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.
Thing is, it’s normal to close off that part of our heart when we come face to face with tragedy. It’s because we are protecting ourselves.
In time, we will open up, little by little, as God whispers truths of comfort into our broken hearts.
In other words, there is no quick fix. It takes time. God is there, helping us through the time it takes.
Throughout the Bible, God tells us we need patience.
But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.
There is nothing to do but believe.
There is nothing to do but wait.
If we keep wrestling, we’ll become exhausted.
Body, soul, and spirit exhausted.
God will help you be patient.
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when it hurts 
Kathleen, I sometimes can’t believe I have outlived my child that he died the way it’s been told to us …suicide. I prayed for my children to be safe and healthy and I was specific in asking God not to let me outlive any of them yet here I am. I have come to the conclusion that indeed we have no say over death. It will end at that “appointed time.” But, as you say, “God
whispers truths of comfort into our broken hearts.” I could not agree more. We are both living proof of how God holds us up and helps us cope with the promise of His love and grace in each minute of our suffering.
❣Dale….Brandon’s mom
Me, too, Dale. I crossed all the T’s and dotted all the I’s when it came to praying, believing – Psalm 91 – “no evil shall come near your dwelling place”.
I felt very confident in those days.
Now, I accept and have learned to see the other side of the coin.
Thing is, those who are still “praying and believing” (not that I don’t believe in that anymore) are not listening.
Thanks for your thoughts!