7. Help Yourself by Helping Others
Helping others address their needs is one of the best ways
to relieve the anxiety we may feel about our own.
–Rabbi Brad Hirschfield
Your pain can be turned into inspiration for someone else.
Typically, we either end up as lifelong victims or victors in our circumstances. Understand, I am not minimizing pain. It’s important to go through the process of pain but you can’t stay there. It’s also unhealthy to act as if everything is okay and not ever face it. But in time, your pain can be turned into inspiration for others – and it helps heal your pain.
MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving), was organized by a mother who’s 13 year old daughter was killed by a drunk driver. The mother’s pain was helped through helping others.
After the abduction and brutally murder of his son, John Walsh founded the Adam Walsh Child Resource Center, dedicated to legislative reform. His organization later merged with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. The father’s pain helped others and it helped his, too.
You may find it helps to create an organization or group in your community. You may write a book. Or you may do none of the above and find great healing and comfort just in conversation with people you come in contact with. Large scale or small scale, it’s not about the size. It’s about you being able to eventually look up from your pain and help someone else. I promise you, it makes all the difference to them – and for you.
Be an inspiration!