When you’re hurting, you have to put the pain somewhere.

You many not be thinking in those terms, but we all cope in our own ways.

Why do you think so many people have addictions? And it’s not just drugs, alcohol, and sex. It’s food, over-the-counter medications, television, cell phones, social networks, exercise, and more.

Don’t confuse a healthy helping of activities that help you find fulfillment and peace. Some organizations like MADD are started by people who experienced pain.

But those things are still limited. When you lay your head on the pillow at the close of another day, where does your mind go? Is it peaceful? Or are the next day’s activities of whatever you are doing to ease the pain swirling around your head?

God has promised rest and peace for our souls. But we have to look at him for it. He’s always there waiting for you. In the midst of tragedy, he is the only one who can help you.  When you believe that nothing goes unnoticed by God, that he is so near to you that he knows how many strands of hair you have, you will bring your pain to him.

You can survive even when pain tries to paralyze you.


Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

-The Bible



Your pain can be turned into inspiration for someone else.

Typically, we either end up as lifelong victims or victors in our circumstances. Understand, I am not minimizing pain. It’s important to go through the process of pain but you can’t stay there. It’s also unhealthy to act as if everything is okay and not ever face it. But in time, your pain can be turned into inspiration for others – and it helps heal your pain.

MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving), was organized by a mother who’s 13 year old daughter was killed by a drunk driver. The mother’s pain was helped through helping others.

After the abduction and brutally murder of his son, John Walsh founded the Adam Walsh Child Resource Center, dedicated to legislative reform.  His organization later merged with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. The father’s pain helped others and it helped his, too.

You may find it helps to create an organization or group in your community. You may write a book. Or you may do none of the above and find great healing and comfort just in conversation with people you come in contact with. Large scale or small scale, it’s not about the size. It’s about you being able to eventually look up from your pain and help someone else. I promise you, it makes all the difference to them – and for you.

Be an inspiration!