Some pain is so deep that there are no words.
In the book, A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss, the author wonderfully explains what I had personally discovered:
“We recover from broken limbs, not amputations.”
There are some awful things in life that change us forever. If a tree falls to the ground, we cannot put it back up. Yet, when someone is in pain, we try to put them back up. We mean well. It’s just what we do. We want them to be well for their sake. And sometimes, we want them to be well for our sake. Pain scares us.
The amputee will never have his leg back. What is lost is lost. And it is much better for a person to face that truth. Only then are they able to go through the pain.
We can throw prescription drugs, antibiotics, bandages, and ointments all we want at a missing leg and it won’t reappear no matter how hard we try. But, we can help someone walk again.
“But it hurts.”
Yes, it does.